I’ve written many stories on “red flags” in relationships, and more often than not, many women consider a guy who is a mama’s boy to be a red flag (and I honestly agree). Recently, I came across this story posted in the r/relationship_advice subreddit that talks about a woman’s boyfriend of three years getting a much nicer (and more expensive) Christmas gift for his mom compared to what she (thinks) he got her.
Before we get into it, I have one slightly nosy little question for you:
Before I give away too much, here is the full story posted by the OP (original poster): “I (25F) have been dating my BF (26M) for about three years now. The relationship is great; we never fight and agree on basically everything. We have the same timeline for the next steps, etc. However, one thing has always been touchy: his mom. I’m very close with my mom, and I think having a relationship with your parents is important, but his mom is definitely a ‘classic boy mom, like, no one is better than mommy.’ He doesn’t really seem to realize it, which is also bothersome.”
The OP continued by writing, “I told him that all those things she said were untrue and that if I wanted those things, I would have just said them. The second time I met her was at a dinner, and she was very distant, not talking to me (it was a four-person dinner, like her husband, son, and me). Then, the third time I met her, we went to her son’s concert, and she knew that I was going to, but got separate seats for her and her husband, so I was sitting alone. There are more interactions than this, but these were some of the most memorable.”
So that brings us to this Christmas. The OP finished by explaining, “So he had some packages come into the apartment, and I was moving them out of the living area (very tiny apartment), and a card from a luxury jewelry company slipped out with the receipt and a card that says ‘to mom.’ He spent over a thousand on her, and I think he got me a sweatshirt from my college because he asked me my sweatshirt size and then sent me what he got his sister, which is a vintage sweatshirt from her college, too. I just feel weird; he gave his sister and me the same gift. His parents are millionaires, and she’s frequently gifted jewelry and cars,” she continued.
Before we continue, I have another question for you:
I felt for the OP while reading this, and I personally think she has a long road ahead of her with this mama’s boy dynamic if she stays with him. Here’s what the rest of Reddit had to say:
Sheesh! What are your thoughts on all of this? Share it all with me in the comments below!
