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“My partner’s cousin is getting married. We live in Cambridge, they live an hour away, closer to London. They’ve chosen to have their wedding six hours drive away. It’s a three-day affair. We were initially told accommodation would be sorted for us at the estate. We have two kids. They’d said no children ages ago. Fine, we got that covered over a year ago in anticipation, and they gave plenty of notice so plans could be made. No worries. A few months before, on the official invite, we then found they’d reduced us from the three-day affair to just the day. No accommodations. Okay, that’s a bit sad, but we can get over it. We would then stop over in Bristol for a night to see friends on the way down instead. Then, we planned to book a hotel or Airbnb for two days and make a little break from it since we’d already got the kids sorted.”
“Today, we got the request to RSVP within three days. After RSVPing for both my partner and me, my partner received an email (not on the actual website RSVP). It said: ‘[Partner name] — day and evening guest. 1.30 p.m. start for the ceremony.’ [My name] — evening guest. 7.30 p.m. start.’
My partner doesn’t drive, so I would be driving us six hours there and six hours back. We’d be spending a fair amount of money on petrol, accommodation, and drinks. And now I’m told I’m only going to be there from 7.30 p.m. onwards? We’re both annoyed…maybe because it’s still fresh. But my partner and I are wondering why this hasn’t been mentioned before. The place is fairly remote and in the countryside. Am I just going to sit by myself for six hours after spending an arm (and potentially a leg) to come to the wedding? This area is not cheap, so accommodations are expensive. The average price is £170+ per night, and fuel is not exactly cheap either. I expect two tanks, so that’s about £160 for us. So that’s £500 for me to go to the wedding of my partner’s cousin for four hours.”
